The Severi degree is the degree of the Severi variety parametrizing plane curves of degree
$d$ with
${\it\delta}$ nodes. Recently, Göttsche and Shende gave two refinements of Severi degrees, polynomials in a variable
$y$, which are conjecturally equal, for large
$d$. At
$y=1$, one of the refinements, the relative Severi degree, specializes to the (non-relative) Severi degree. We give a tropical description of the refined Severi degrees, in terms of a refined tropical curve count for all toric surfaces. We also refine the equivalent count of floor diagrams for Hirzebruch and rational ruled surfaces. Our description implies that, for fixed
${\it\delta}$, the refined Severi degrees are polynomials in
$d$ and
$y$, for large
$d$. As a consequence, we show that, for
${\it\delta}\leqslant 10$ and all
$d\geqslant {\it\delta}/2+1$, both refinements of Göttsche and Shende agree and equal our refined counts of tropical curves and floor diagrams.